It is natural to feel insecure about facing someone who is close to death. Death evokes strong emotions, but there is no right or wrong way to talk about it. Daring to show consideration and listen can make a big difference. Be honest with your feelings, it's okay to not have all the answers.
Take advantage of the time together.
Ask how the person is doing. Avoid saying you know how they feel, but feel free to express that you like or love the person and that you will miss them.
Focus on the good memories. Discussing your shared history and what you have meant to each other can also be a nice comfort to both of you.
It's also okay to just be quiet together if it feels right, or make up things that take the focus away from the person dying.
Make the best of the time that remains and help the dying person feel alive and appreciated.
Many people who are approaching death describe missing their everyday lives and doing the usual things they used to do.
Many people experience a sense of relief when they start talking openly about death. This can be especially a relief for those who are sick, who do not have to put up a facade to protect their loved ones. Being able to be honest about your feelings and thoughts can be liberating.
It can also be very helpful for those who are ill to be able to participate and discuss practical matters relating to the lives of loved ones afterwards.
Talking about funeral, estate and other practical matters can be a way for both the sick person and the relatives to gain clarity and prepare. This opens up a more honest and supportive dialogue, where everyone involved can feel more prepared and less stressed
It can be a tough balancing act to give care to someone who is sick while taking care of yourself and your own grief.
Caring for yourself is also a way to support the sick person, as they often worry about how their loved ones will cope with everything after their passing.
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