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When Victoria Wickman first came into contact with the work around the final afterlife, she saw something that touched her deeply. Despite a great deal of involvement in the industry, the care of the deceased was often characterized by procedures that were mechanical and lacked the care that people deserve, both in respect for the departed and for those who remain.

With a background as a political scientist and many years in the public sector, Victoria trained as an undertaker. During her internship, it became clear to her how much a dignified presentation of the body means to relatives. She describes herself as simple and human:

I don't want my relatives to see me in an undignified condition, and I don't want to leave them with that image. '

Her Company, Rest in Peace, is today is one of the few in Sweden offering advanced post-mortem cosmetics and reconstruction. By restoring damage and giving the body the most dignified appearance possible, Victoria creates the opportunity for relatives to say goodbye in a way that feels safe, respectful and healing.

Caring beyond the visible

For Victoria, the work isn't just about technology and cosmetics, it's about people's last impressions of someone they loved. In cases where injuries make it difficult to say goodbye, her contribution can be decisive in determining whether relatives dare and have the courage to take a personal farewell from the deceased, which can be crucial in grief processing.

She has seen how forgone goodbyes deepen grief, and how dignified care can provide comfort when everything else is heavy. Therefore, Victoria bears a clear motto:

“Everyone who wishes should be able to say a dignified farewell. Everyone deserves a dignified end.”

A Work Grounded in Respect

Resting in Peace is based on a value foundation where care, quality and discretion in every moment and all work is done by Victoria. In an industry where physical care after death often falls into the dark, Victoria has created a path that puts the human at the center, even when life is over.

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When someone passes away, a notion often arises that a funeral must follow fixed frameworks. But the parting can be as unique as the life that the person leaves behind. There is a great scope to shape ceremonies that reflect the person, the relationships and all that is carried on.

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Today, more and more families seek farewells that feel close and meaningful, where the tone, the words and the place together create a memory to rest in. In the process, music has become a central companion. It expresses what may be hard to say, but easy to feel.

“I sometimes think of funerals as a kind of tribute concert,” says artist and officiant Anna Christoffersson and continues: “People's lives are worth highlighting. When we do something beautiful together, it becomes a gift to those who are left behind.”

Music — a common place to meet

Music can carry memories of a lifetime. It invites presence in a moment that often holds both missing and stillness, and it unites people with different experiences and feelings.

It is also something that many relatives testify to. A person who hired Anna put it this way:

“Experience from a funeral: Anna and her fellow musicians showed an incredibly good musical performance. I know that they are all famous musicians with great CVs, but at least I want to say that this was one of the best things I have experienced on such an occasion. Astonishing singing, lovely piano playing, what an amazing tone in the trumpet.. all so subtle and beautiful, couldn't get any better for our dear friend's funeral.“ Customer about Anna at Trustpilot 

For many, music becomes a bridge between silence and what needs to be said, between grief and everything that lives on in the heart. Musique crire un movimento, una dirección y una seguridad para restar

From Grammy nominations to ceremonial work

Anna has lived with music throughout her professional life and is a multiple Grammy nominee in jazz. Quando è studiato come un attore funerale, la sua artistry took on a new dimension: creating experiences that provide support, warmth and meaning in one of life's most vulnerable moments.

“I have always created whole things, both concerts, events, ceremonies. In this work, music becomes a tool that makes a real difference for people.”

In meeting with families, she uses both her voice and her feeling to shape the context. Sometimes she leads the whole ceremony, sometimes she contributes solely to the music. The shape is always adapted to the person who passed away and to those who gather to remember.

Parting that feels personal and cohesive

A personal farewell is about more than music. It's about how the whole moment gets to shape the rhythm, the pauses, the stories and the presence.

Regardless of how the ceremony is set up, the goal is the same: to create a safe place where people are allowed to be together, without demands, with room for both tears and gratitude.

When a ceremony is thought out and shaped after the people attending, it can provide support long afterwards. When parting becomes personal, it often becomes a memory to hold on to, where the music helps to carry both the grief and all that is left to live on.

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Susanne LJ Westergren and Barbro Ohlson Smith come from completely different backgrounds but have found a common passion in opening up conversations about life's last journey. Where Susanne, with a, Barbro. Together they have created a platform where their complementary perspectives can meet and enrich each other.

Susanne: Think more about death and enjoy life

With a background as a nurse, and with experiences in hospice and emergency departments, Susanne has been close to both the beginning and the end of her life early on. In the middle of her life, she chose to train as a journalist with a focus on science and health. When she herself suffered bereavement in the family, she felt that she lacked both the knowledge and practical tools to deal with all that comes with death and grief. From that experience, the book grew The Art of Caring for an Estate ahead, and then the TV show on SVT Todo estado, in which the complex and often emotionally charged situations arising from a succession are portrayed.

For Susanne, practicality often becomes a way into the difficult, sorting, structuring and arranging. At the same time, she describes how she needs and longs to face the emotional deeper, and how order can sometimes become a refuge.

“For me, there is a spirituality that always accompanies every existence. I can see a soul in something as small as a bumblebee, and I carry care for every life, no matter how small,” after all, we are all part of a huge whole.”

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Barbro: Designing the end

Barbro Ohlson Smith has a long background as a designer with a focus on identity and expression. Quando ha iniziato il podcast My death, my funeral it was to explore whether the same ideas about form and form could be applied to the end of life. She saw how many funerals followed a template and wondered if it was possible to create more personal farewells.

For more than fifty podcasts, Barbro.

“It has changed the way I look at the meaning of life and made me even more value living in the present, being present and taking advantage of relationships,” says Barbro about working on the podcast. Huh, and

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The meeting point: the YouTube channel

When Susanne and Barbro found each other, a common idea emerged: to create a new forum where their different perspectives could meet. The result was a series on YouTube; How does it work - death, life and grief, which has recently been launched. vi. Also, how we can plan for the inevitable death of our own and those of our relatives is a topic that will be included in their productions.

Fact that they choose to broaden their collaboration with YouTube is because they want to reach out to younger generations. Moving media offers new possibilities for purely practical demonstration of how things work and not just tell about it. He, Jocke Wiik, sound engineer and film,.

Together they want to make it easier for us as a society to talk about death; not to set rules, but to dare to reflect, share experiences and perhaps find new ways to value life.

Ahead: more forums for talks

Both Susanne and Barbro see a continued need to create space for existential conversations. Through podcasts, books and now also the video format, they find different ways to reach out to more people. Needed for forums that open up conversations about death remains and Susanne and Barbro are far from finished.

Listen to Barbro's podcast My death, my funeral Aqui
Win YouTube Channel How does it work - death, life and grief Aqui 

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What is sadness?

Most of us experience sadness at some point in the course of our lives. Grief is an emotional reaction to loss or great change. We grieve because we take in the loss we suffered and try to understand and adapt to a new life situation. Grief helps us with this, but also serves as a signal to the outside world that we need comfort and support.

A grief reaction can be triggered in response to various types of losses, such as:

• fatality
• Separaciones
• Losing a job or unemployment
• Different forms of abuse
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• Children moving away from home
• Pets passing away
• To retire
• A future that didn't turn out as expected

How does grief feel?

Grieving is often a more comprehensive experience than just being sad. Grief manifests itself in different ways for different people and can include a range of emotions such as sadness, anger, guilt, shame, confusion and emptiness. Grief can also contain conflicting thoughts and feelings, for example, it is not uncommon to feel both sadness and relief when someone who suffered from a severe illness passes away. How grief feels is individual, and it's important to remember that there is no “right” way to grieve.

Being in a new life situation can be extremely stressful, while the world around you is living as usual. The gap here can be extremely large. It is not uncommon to experience in grief a mixture of physical, emotional, thought and behavioral reactions, such as:

• A feeling of being numb
• Mood Swings
• Concentration and memory difficulties
• Feelings of unreality
• Changing eating habits
• Lack of energy
• Feelings of emptiness, loneliness, meaninglessness
• Missing and longing
• Re-Experiences of What Happened
• Difficulty sleeping
• Self-incrimination and the Quandary of Conscience
• Anxiety and emotional vulnerability
• Irritability, anger, or aggressiveness
• Passivity
• Impaired immune system
• Fainting or feeling sick
• Social isolation
• Lack of initiative
• Weeping mildness
• Difficulty adapting to change
• Increased alcohol intake

How is grief processed?

It can be very demanding to take in the pain of a great loss. Sometimes the expression is used bereavement work. New research shows that there is no definite way to process grief. For a person, a solo time with his interest is necessary, but for another, conversations with friends can be necessary. You just have to approach grief in your own way. The important thing is to find what helps you move on from the loss.

Phases of grief

In the past, we talked more about the different phases of grief, such as the shock phase, the reaction phase, the processing phase and the new orientation phase. See,. It is common to first experience a state of shock when faced with a life-changing event. Some may feel like they are in a nightmare they hope to wake up from. In addition, over time, one can integrate the event into one's life. This does not mean that the pain has disappeared, but that you have reached a form of emotional acceptance and can begin to move forward in life.

Bubbles of grief

Instead of different phases, we can talk about different bubbles. You can move between a bubble of grief and a bubble where life feels like normal. When you're in the grief bubble, only the grief exists and the reality feels unreal. Sie in the second bubble you can see confusend a creëren a guilty conscience. It seems important that it is completely normal to help between bubbles, it is difficult. Amount of time one is in the various bubbles will change during the grieving process.

A grieving process takes a different amount of time for different individuals and for different losses. For some people, the grief can be intense and last for months or even years. Others can reach acceptance and relief relatively quickly. It is also normal for grief to return even though you feel that you have grieved clearly.

Coping with grief

From a psychological perspective, it is good to allow oneself to feel one's sadness and express the thoughts and feelings that arise. This can be done by writing down your feelings, and finding meaningful ways to remember what has been lost. På,, a a a a a a.

Grief Management Tools

You who are experiencing grief can do this:

• Allow yourself to feel your grief fully.
• Express what is going on inside you. Tell, write or paint.
• Seek support from friends and relatives.
• Take care of yourself with exercise, sleep and diet.
• Maintain, to the extent possible, your usual routines. It can be hard to understand in grief why we should even do anything. But routines become counterbalance to the confusion and a rest from the difficult.
• Seek the support of other mourners, for example via the church's grief group.
• If you need professional support, you can apply to a curator or deacon for support talks.

Grief combined with other mental illnesses

In grief, many other inconveniences can also be accommodated. People who grieve often experience symptoms of depression and anxiety during parts of the grieving process. If these symptoms are an origin of grief, there is no need for individual depression or anxiety treatment, as the symptoms are judged to subside once the grief has been processed. In cases where depression and anxiety were present even before a loss, grief can amplify these symptoms. It may then be a good idea to talk to a psychologist if you need a more extensive intervention, with treatment for depression and anxiety specifically. Some losses can leave deep wounds. In cases where the loss involves a traumatic event, such as an accident, one may develop PTSD symptoms, these cases one may need PTSD treatment.

Therapy for unprocessed grief

Grief is usually self-healing and it is not always that a theurapeutical contact is needed. However, in cases where grief is prolonged, complex or affects crucial parts of your life, or leads to depression or anxiety, it is important to seek professional support. Mindler's psychologists can help you with this.

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To have a stable economy and to maintain health. To be physically and psychologically in balance. Laugh often and have kind people around you. Dat and doesn't make one want to escape to a deserted island. Here are some ideas on what quality of life can be.

In purely academic terms, quality of life is defined as; a person's subjective experience of their own well-being in relation to their living conditions. What quality of life actually means can vary between individuals and is influenced by factors such as environment, conditions and values. Dreadful. A discussion can range from the most basic human needs, to how we reach self-realization. Nel sociétés, waar humane réservés, a que les structures sociétés comprendent, les conversacions sont muy sobre como podemos relaxar, enjoyer et fulfils dreams. However, many would generally consider that a good quality of life is characterised by a harmonious balance of physical, psychological, economic and social factors.

La qualità di vita non è una qualità statica, se conversa una donna e la società a qui vive. Today we also encounter new kinds of factors, which play into the quality of life, than we have previously encountered. Nómero, trabajo y leisurezó se más intervíncia, tecnologia a línea major y centralizada en nos vivos, y aspectos sociales hace uma diferente de diffusión. All this for better or for worse. Thus, the definition of quality of life is both fluid and changing.

It is thus a complex subject that concerns both individual and societal aspects. By understanding what influences it, we can both improve our own quality of life and contribute to a better living environment for others.

Quality of life in healthcare

The quality of life is at the heart of healthcare. It is a very important aspect in treatment and nursing. It is of course important that a patient overcomes problems and illnesses, or receives the right medical treatment, but how the individual's everyday life and well-being are affected by the care is of equal importance. La qualità di vita in healthcare je ne samo sobre curando dischi, ma anche o segurança que se puede vive como dobro e independiente vida como posible, pero problemas de salud posible. In order to protect the quality of life in healthcare, things such as those mentioned below are usually prioritised:

• Access to timely and equitable care.

• Maintain quality of pain management and symptom relief.

• Offer psychological support to deal with anxiety and depression and other things that affect mental health.

• To invite participation in their care plan, so that patients themselves can enjoy the care they receive.

• Palliative care - palliative care when the disease is incurable.

Lack of quality of life

When life is fraught with friction or when a particular aspect of life falls into imbalance, it can lead to the experience of a reduced quality of life. Por exemplo, longo stressEconomic insecurity, social isolation or chronic health problems adversely affect a person's well-being. Oftentimes people feel that this restricts one from accomplishing or achieving things that one desires. It can also mean that routines are limited, that there is an absence of routines or that there is a feeling of not being in control of one's life.

Perché, in order to improve the quality of life, it may be important to identify and work on the areas that create imbalances, for example through support from health care, social networks or changes in lifestyle and everyday habits. If you want to get in touch with a psychologist to get professional help, you can make an appointment directly at Mindler.

When Frida Hard lost her husband and was left alone with their one-year-old son, the world shook. It wasn't just a love she lost, it was a nuclear family, a vision of the future, an identity.

“It was like the ground was disappearing under me. In the midst of it, I realized how difficult it is for many to face grief. How little space it gets to take up in our society. How quiet it gets,” says Frida.

She began to notice what was missing. Not just support, but a place of grief. Utensils. Attendance.

“Many of us have never been taught how to deal with or face grief. Neither in school, in work, nor in everyday life. It's almost strange. For everyone has or/and will face grief. But we talk so little about it.”

Grief not only became a life-changing experience, it became a driving force. Frida wanted to change something. Make room for the missed conversations. For the feelings that were not expressed. For the quiet rooms where people carry on the difficult, completely alone.

She began to put into words recurring themes in the grief, themes rarely mentioned in superficial conversations: the fear, the anger, the loss of identity.

“I wasn't just sitting. I was angry. I was lost. I didn't recognize myself. A grieve came with so many fears I had to face: How would I cope financially? Was I enough as a mother? Would I ever feel happy again?”

Grief support: a place where grief is allowed to breathe

Six years ago Frida started Grief Support, a business where today she offers mourning circles, lectures, writing exercises and talks, for both individuals and companies.

“Getting to recognize yourself in other people's stories can be so healing. Sometimes we find it difficult to find our own words in grief. But when someone else says something we recognize ourselves in or that we feel completely different about, it can help us find our language, our words. And our new direction.”

Frida continues:”I want to be the voice that I myself lacked, one that says it's okay to feel exactly the way you feel and that all reactions are allowed to exist. If the grieve does not have the essence soaked or silenced, I am allowed to dry in your pocket. I want to be a safe hand to hold in grief.“

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What is death anxiety?

Death anxiety consists of a strong fear of one's own or another's death and its consequences. What constitutes the basic fear can vary from person to person. For some, it may be the grief of losing someone, for others the uncertainty of what happens after death can trigger anxiety.

If you yourself or someone in your life is seriously ill, it is a natural reaction to think about death and its consequences. Being afraid of death is therefore not a psychiatric diagnosis but a normal reaction to the realization that life is finite. But if your thoughts about death take up so much space that they limit your everyday life, such as at work or in your relationships, they pose a problem. Then it may be wise to either investigate what this fear and these thoughts are due to, or try to replace them with other, more helpful, thoughts and behaviors.

It is also not uncommon for death anxiety to occur in combination with other mental illness such as depression, generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), health anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), or stress-related mental illness. For this, psychological treatment may be required.

Symptoms of Death Anxiety

Since death anxiety itself does not constitute a diagnosis, there is also no list of symptoms. However, here are some examples of reactions that are common in death anxiety:

• Bodily Experiences: Anxiety manifests itself in the body in many different ways such as heart palpitations, increased heart rate, tension, pressure on the breasts, lump in the throat and feelings of panic.
• Feelings: In addition to fear and anxiety, emotions such as anger, sadness, sadness, guilt and shame are also common.
• Thoughts: The fear of death can lead to a preoccupation with thoughts and one can easily fall into a stupor. Questions that concern “why” and “how” can occupy significant time and energy.
• Behaviors: Death anxiety can lead to avoidance of things dealing with death or avoidance of existential issues at large. Other behaviors may be linked to health, such as living life in an excessively healthy way.

Why do you get death anxiety?

Death is in its essence arcane and abstract, and at the same time something that we know for sure will befall us. Therefore, it is not at all strange that we humans from time to time come into contact with strong emotions when we think about the end of life. The function of death anxiety can be multi-bottomed.

From an evolutionary perspective, this fear is essential to our survival. It allows us to avoid dangers that could otherwise lead to our death, such as being alert in traffic. Other personal factors may include having experienced a painful death or a near-death experience of your own. How one views death in one's immediate family, as well as in the cultural and religious context one lives in, also influences how one perceives death. If you see death as something dangerous, secret or distressing, it's no wonder to develop anxiety. Likewise, a perception of death as, for example, the possibility of another life, can be a protective factor for the development of death anxiety.

How do you deal with death anxiety?

Here's some advice on how to deal with your death anxiety.

1. Learn more about your anxiety. Examine your thoughts, feelings, bodily experiences, and behaviors in order to become more aware of how the fear of death affects you.
2. Share your experiences with someone with whom you are safe. Curiously researching and processing these thoughts and feelings together with someone else can also be a good idea. Often a close friend or relative can help with new perspectives and reduce the experience of being alone in one's fear. It can also be helpful to converse with a priest or deacon as death forms a central theme in their profession.
3. Examine what is important in life. Consider what is important in your life and how this can be expressed in the form of concrete actions. As with much else, anxiety has two sides. The other side of the coin is that death anxiety can motivate you to live life: Death forms the dark backdrop that gives life color. Knowing death can take us from a state of pondering why We live to ask ourselves instead how we want to live.
4. “The three pillars”: To reduce your vulnerability to anxiety, it's important to make sure you have a good sleep routine, get enough nutrition, and exercise regularly.

Treatment for death anxiety

Unpleasant thoughts about death something that most people experience from time to time. Death anxiety cannot be cured, because it is not a disease. However, if you suffer so much that it affects you in your everyday life or at the same time suffer from another mental illness, it may be appropriate to seek help.

If you want to get in touch with a psychologist who works with death anxiety, you can book a visit directly to Mindler.

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What does a life coach do & how can they help you? How is a life coach different from a psychologist, and who should you seek help from? These concepts are ironed out.

The difference between a life coach and personal-coach?

Life Coach: Focuses on helping individuals improve their overall life. They work on identifying barriers and creating strategies for personal growth.

Personal Coach: Specializes in specific areas such as career, leadership or health. They are more targeted, help to achieve tangible results in a specific area.

The difference between life coach and psychologist?

Life Coach: Focuses on the present and the future, helps to set and achieve goals. They are not trained to deal with mental illnesses.

Psychologist (especially CBT psychologist): Trained in understanding and treating mental illnesses. Uses scientific methods such as CBT to treat anxiety, depression and other mental health problems.

What does a life coach do?

A life coach works to support and guide individuals in their personal and professional development. Among other things, they help to:

• Identify the individual's goals: What and why does the individual have goals?
• Develop strategies:They create action plans to achieve these goals. This can include breaking down large goals into smaller, manageable steps.
• Overcoming obstacles:Life coaches help identify and overcome the obstacles that stand in the way of success.
• Personal growth:They focus on promoting personal development and self-understanding.
• Support, motivation & responsibility:Life coaches offer support and motivation and hold clients accountable for achieving their set goals.

It is important to point out that a life coach is not a substitute for professional psychological help in case of mental health problems, but a psychologist is required.

How does a life coach work compared to a psychologist?

Life Coach:

• Focus - Goals and desired future.
• Methodology - Techniques in the form of motivational conversations and goal-setting strategies.
• Relation - Works side by side with the client to achieve the desired changes.
• Area - Focuses on personal development and the goals that have been set.

Psychologist (especially CBT psychologist):

• Focus on mental health - Psychologists diagnose and treat mental illnesses and emotional problems.
• Methodical - Uses treatment methods such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to change negative thought patterns and behaviors.
• Relation - While the coach has the goal of acting as a collaborator, your psychologist focuses on treating different disorders by teaching the patient different strategies and tools to deal with their difficulties.
• Area - Focuses on dealing with mental disorders, such as anxiety, depression, stress management.

summarily - while a life coach helps individuals navigate and achieve their life goals, a psychologist offers professional treatment for mental health problems.

Which one of these is best suited for me to meet?

Life Coach:

• Personal development:When you want to develop personal skills, such as leadership or time management.
• Career and goals:If you need help setting and achieving career goals or other life goals.
• Motivation and direction:When you seek motivation and guidance to make positive changes in your life.
• Balance in life:To find a better work-life balance.

Psychologist:

• Mental problems:If you are experiencing anxiety, depression or other mental health problems.
• Behavior change:When you need help managing and changing negative behaviors or thought patterns that create significant distress in your everyday life.
• Emotional difficulties:To deal with emotional difficulties or problems.

Choosing between a life coach and a psychologist depends on your specific needs. Life coaching is more focused on personal development and goal setting, while psychological help is suitable for dealing with mental and emotional problems.

How can a personal coach help you with self-esteem and confidence?

A life coach can be a valuable resource for improving your self-esteem and confidence by:

• Identify strengths:Helps you recognize and value your unique strengths and talents.
• Set realistic goals:Help set realistic goals, which can increase your sense of accomplishment and ability.
• Challenging Negative Thoughts:Help you identify and challenge negative self-perceptions.
• Highlighting successes: Encourages & focuses on celebrating your successes, big and small.
• Develop positive habits: Helps establish and maintain habits and routines that strengthen self-esteem.

By working with a life coach, you can develop a stronger self-esteem and self-confidence which is usually crucial for personal and professional success. If you want to get in touch with a psychologist, you can book directly via Mindler here.

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